One of the most difficult things to understand in life is how someone who professes to love you can then go on to abuse you. People who meet the criteria for or have traits of psychopathy, extreme narcissism and other low-empathy disorders often operate in manipulative ways within the context of intimate relationships due to their deceitfulness, lack of remorse and tendency to be interpersonally exploitative.
It’s normal to feel traumatized and confused after a romantic relationship with pathological partner ends. You might wonder, “We were so in love, yet they went from telling me that I was the love of their life to treating me like garbage. They cheated on me, devalued me and embarrassed me in front of our friends. How can I trust anyone again, if I so badly misjudged this person?”
The harm that comes to the partners in these relationships is unique, complex and often rooted in earlier relational trauma. Few therapists have the special training to recognize and treat survivors of this type of abuse, who often struggle with “aftermath” symptoms such as flashbacks, intrusive thoughts, obsessive rumination, cravings for the person who hurt them, cognitive dissonance, loss of former self/identity, and difficulty focusing and making decisions.
I can help you understand which approaches will deepen your pain and contribute to feeling 'stuck' when you're attempting to recover. We’ll focus on how your brain responds to certain words, activities, experiences, and contact with your former partner. You’ll gain a better understanding of the predictable ways personality pathology plays out in relationships, as well as the neuroscience behind your aftermath symptoms.
It may not seem like it now, but recovery is possible.